The Mind Is A House

The mind is a house you can’t escape. You live in your own head, and you’ll be trapped there for the rest of your life.

We all react to this in different ways. You can:

Leave the house for a while.

Drinking lets you open the door and wander around in your front yard.

Meditation lets you make the walls transparent, so you can pretend the house isn’t there.

LSD lets you climb up on the roof for a helicopter tour. But if things go wrong, you punch a hole in the roof and it leaks until you patch it up.

I’ve known people whose happiest moment was the first time they left — it helped them understand that the house was, in fact, a house.

Get roommates.

You can fill your house with replicas of other people.

Some people live with their friends. Some live with their parents. Some live with Jesus.

Some people have really accurate replicas. Others have weird broken versions that love them less and judge them more. I once spent several days being yelled at by a replica of my favorite professor, until I met her in person and realized I’d drawn her eyebrows way too angry.

Some people have houses so crowded that they have to squeeze around people to go anywhere; they might not even have their own rooms.

Roommates can be fun. And sometimes, someone really needs the space — like your kids, or your spouse. But you own the house. Your roommates don’t pay rent. If they trash the place, or insult the host, you can kick them out.

Open the windows.

You can’t escape the house, but you can look outside. Travel opens windows. So does meeting new people. As you create more views, you may feel less cramped inside your house, or learn to appreciate how cozy it is.

Perspective-taking is looking through your window into someone else’s house. If you concentrate, you might be able to walk around inside.

Decorate.

The most compelling reason to get a good education is that it makes the inside of your head an interesting place to spend the rest of your life.

—Judith Shapiro

If you look at art for a while, it might show up on your walls. If you read, you’ll get a mental library. By exploring new fields or philosophies, you can build entire rooms.

Decorating can be addictive. If you spend all your time shelving books and buying art (my weakness), you may find your house a bit stuffy and quiet. I wish I had more roommates.

Learn to keep your house in order.

Window stuck? Roommates won’t leave? Try becoming a better housekeeper.

When I get more sleep, I have an easier time decorating, and I stop tripping over that one broken step.

When I stick to my gratitude journal, the lights seem brighter.

Therapy offers tools: A rag and oil to get the window moving, a lock to keep the roommates out of your space.

But housekeeping alone doesn’t make a home. I’ve known people whose houses were incredibly tidy, but barely decorated; they were dusting empty shelves and wiping white walls.

 

Every single person has a house

I try to remember that everyone has a house.

If someone is an asshole, something might be wrong with their house: mean relatives who won’t leave, a backed-up disposal filling the place with foul odors.

This doesn’t mean you have to help them clean — though you can if you want to. It doesn’t mean you can’t shun them, or put them in actual prison if they hurt someone. But you can feel whatever sympathy seems right, and enjoy knowing that your own house doesn’t smell like garbage.

If someone has a mental illness, something is definitely wrong with their house. Maybe the lights are dim, and there aren’t any windows to let the sun inside. Maybe there’s a radio they can’t turn off, even to sleep. Maybe they have a violent roommate who routinely trashes the place. Whatever’s happening, they can’t escape

Some people are trapped in burning houses; we should put the fires out, even if they don’t want help.

Writing Advice I Actually Use

I’ve been a salaried writer and editor for the last eight years: newsletters, websites, blog posts, essays, and a bit of research.

People sometimes ask me for writing tips. This post collects my advice — all of which I still use myself.

Preparation

Read good writing. 

The more good writing you see, the more you’ll notice when your own writing sounds off.

Read the sort of thing you want to write. If you spend the day on Twitter, your thoughts will take the shape of Twitter posts — which is great if you want to write for Twitter (no shame in that), but not so good for longer work.

I like this line from Scott Alexander:

Almost the only good advice in any discipline is “develop instincts, then use them”.

You develop instincts by writing and reading; writing is best, but reading is easier. And it’s hard to learn through writing alone if you don’t know what you’re trying to become.

Take notes. 

Things happen around you all day. If you aren’t reading, you’re working, or walking around and noticing stuff. If something makes you stop and think, or makes you want to complain, or sends you on a brief flight of fancy, write that down.

I have a couple of Notion files for this — one for fiction, one for blog posts, and one “commonplace book” where I copy down interesting text (books, essays, anime). Make your own files on whatever service you’ll actually use.

In the last 24 hours, I’ve written the notes:

  • “Buying art”, because I talked to someone about how much I love buying art and decided to promote the idea.
  • “Anti-follows”, because I read something so bad I wanted to give the account negative one follow, but that’s impossible. So now I want to think of ways to punish them the equivalent amount.
  • A fiction idea inspired by a story I read, with a cool premise and bad execution. “I could do that better!” is a great motivation — you either write something good or learn a valuable lesson about hubris.

Decide whether something is worth writing. 

The fastest way to write something is not to write it.

When I reviewed ~600 saved-up ideas recently, I threw out around half of them. Some expired, some were stupid, some were too hard, and some had already been written (well enough that I wasn’t motivated to surpass them).

Before you spend hours writing something, spend five minutes checking whether it’s already out there. (Unless it’s something only you could write.) If you find something great, pick another topic — or write a commentary on the other piece, or find some way to mix it in with your work. For example, I quoted other reviews when I reviewed The Book of Disquiet.

Also keep the audience in mind. Will you be satisfied if your piece is read by ten people? Would it need to be a thousand? Or perhaps ten very specific people? Can you make sure they’ll see it?

Think about your readers.

You publish work because you want someone to read it. Who are they? What do they want?

And what do you want from them? Should they feel a certain way? Laugh, cry, get mad? Should they remember an important fact?

Should they leave the post with a next action — buy a new chair, practice juggling, donate to GiveWell, call their representative?

If you’re lucky, you get one or two things from each reader. Focus on the most important ask. You can even make it the title:

Writing

Skip whatever blocks you.

If something isn’t flowing, add a note like FIX LATER and move on.

Most of the time, you should separate research from writing. Don’t look up facts mid-essay unless they’ll determine your next move — type FILL IN LATER and keep going.

If something bores you, or you get stuck, skip it. You may reach the end and discover you didn’t need it. Aella says it well:

In marketing, your boredom itself is a virtue. If you are writing a blog post and discover your attention is wandering, STOP AND TRY SOMETHING ELSE. If you are trying to explain a concept and the life drains out of you, STOP AND TRY SOMETHING ELSE. It’s an important signal!! If your attention fades off of it, probably others’ will too.

If you’re really stuck, and you don’t even know where you’d skip to, try:

  • Sleeping on it.
  • Writing disconnected sentences about the topic until you hit a thread worth continuing.
  • Asking AI for ideas — like a fancier version of lateral thinking cards.
    • The best prompt likely isn’t “what should I say next?” — though you can try that, prompts are cheap — but something like “what does this make you think about?” or “imagine being TYPE OF READER, what are you curious about now?” Think of the AI as a reader, not a writer.

Only use extra words if you have a reason.

By default, nonfiction writing should be short. It helps the reader pay attention and remember things later. Most editing is finding shorter ways to say the same thing.

Excess words are fine as long as they do something. If you feel sad about cutting something, talk to yourself and explain why. Any reason is good enough — “it sounds better”, “it’s more specific”, “it makes me laugh”, “it adds clarity”. But you’ll find that most of the excess was just sitting around not doing much.

Write in sentences.

It’s easier to think in sentences, not paragraphs.

If I’m struggling with something, I give each sentence its own line. That makes them easier to examine — is this true? Does it need to be here? Does it overlap the next sentence?

Once the sentences are in shape, you can decide how to connect them into paragraphs. Most paragraphs should be two or three sentences.

Long, loopy, weird sentences can be fun. But you should surround them with short, clear sentences; the contrast makes them sing.

Keep your voice alive.

Writing isn’t just about efficiency. Inefficiency is human. Voice is human. It’s nice to read something and see the human on the other end.

Humor is awesome. I wish just about everything had more jokes. Don’t feel like you have to cut jokes — if something makes you laugh, that’s a fantastic reason to keep it, even if you think it might be stupid. But don’t force it; trying to add jokes later is a bad sign, with rare exceptions (stand-up comedy, speeches where the crowd is half-asleep and desperately wants to feel something).

If you think in footnotes, add footnotes.

Write the beginning next to last — or skip it.

The beginning is the second-most important part. It’s how we decide whether to read the rest. Write it next to last, when you have the advantage of maximum context.

If you write the beginning first, you might find by the end that it no longer makes sense and has to be rewritten, or removed entirely. But if you leave it for next to last, you might find that you want to write something different, or nothing at all — sweet!

On “nothing at all”: Plenty of pieces are fine starting where they start, without a real introduction. Ask yourself: Would the reader actually be confused without this? Would something important be lost?

Write the title last.

The title is the most important part.

If you know exactly what the reader wants, your title can be workmanlike and literal: Things I recommend you buy and use, Playing Magic: the Gathering for money.

If all you know is “they want something to read”, draw them in. You can win the reader’s attention by yelling at them, making them squint and say “what?”, talking about sticky topics like sex or death, or making them feel seen.

Good titles from other Inkhaven writers:

If you have a good visible tagline, you can get away with a bland title: “Dr. Strangelove” vs. “How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb”.

Editing

Change the form to wake up your brain.

When you stare at words on your computer for long enough, you stop seeing them. Your brain skims past them, picking up the meaning without actually reading sentences.

Fix this by taking the words off your computer:

  • Read them out loud so you hear them instead of looking.
  • Better yet, have a friend (or an AI) read them out loud, so you hear them in a different voice. Your friend might stumble over a sentence that worked for you because they don’t know what comes next.
  • Print them out and edit on paper, with a pen. (I did this throughout college.)

Another technique is to give each sentence its own line (like I mentioned earlier). Read each one alone, so its neighbors can’t hide its flaws.

Don’t stress about making it perfect.

Every hour of editing helps less than the previous hour. Once you reach draft #3, further edits probably aren’t worth it. (There are exceptions — your thesis, an article you’re trying to sell — but casual blog posts aren’t among them.)

Every hour of editing is an hour you aren’t writing. You’ll develop faster as a writer, and write more good stuff, if you focus on creating more and taking more risks, instead of polishing your early work.

I dropped this blog for a long time because I couldn’t publish without far too many edits, even though I had almost no readers. It stopped being fun. And now, when I go back and read those early “perfected” posts, they mostly seem… bad. I wasn’t a good enough writer to make anything perfect, so why was I trying so hard?1

Write too little, not too much.

Err on the side of making things too short.

It saves the reader’s time, and yours. Even if it’s easy to throw everything onto a page, it makes editing harder. Consider removing things instead of refining them.

If you leave some things unwritten, and leave the reader wanting more, you have a natural hook for a followup post — something that will bring them back, and get them in the habit of reading you. But if the reader gets tired, they’ll leave before the end: much worse.

Use AI.

It’s cheap, fast, and somewhat helpful. It tends to give good line edits, and correctly point out the most boring content.

I listen to maybe two-thirds of Claude’s suggestions, mostly around sharpening sentences to be less vague, obvious, or cluttered. I tend to ignore suggestions about removing jokes or things Claude finds “too cute”.

As of April 2026, it still isn’t a good writer, or a good rewriter.

I rarely use Claude’s suggested titles, but I often take a suggestion and find a better variation.

My standard editing prompt:

Here’s a blog post, written for audience X. I want them to (feel/think do) X.

  • What’s the implied promise of this post, and do I deliver on it?
  • Is any material not pulling its weight? If you had to cut 20%, what would it be?
  • What’s the slowest part?
  • Where am I going through the motions?
  • What’s most memorable? What would someone share if they liked the post?
  • Where does the voice feel flat or generic?
  • What did you want to know more about?
  • Where should I be more specific?
  • My current title is X. Give me ten better suggestions.

I cut the “slowest part” (identified correctly), rewrote the “most cuttable” bullet list, and left the advice section untouched.

Other good advice

William Zinsser wrote my favorite book about writing. Very tactical and a pleasure to read.

These essays are worth your time:

 

How To Journal Every Day

I’ve been keeping a journal for the last eight years.

This is one of my best habits: The journal compensates for my awful memory and helps me feel like a complete person with a deep and meaningful history. It reminds me that I’ve spent the last 24 years actually existing, 24 hours at a time. It shows me all the friends I’ve ever had, and all the bad days I’ve put behind me. It’s also fun to read (once enough time has passed, and transient emotions like embarrassment are mostly gone).

 

Until recently, it was also a pain in the ass.

 

The Problem

The Microsoft Word file that stores one-sixth of all the words I’ve ever written is called “Daily Journal”. But it’s been a long time since I’ve really kept a daily journal.

Why? It’s not that my life is boring. Well, it is — objectively speaking — but find it exciting.

One problem is Microsoft Word, which doesn’t perform well with 750,000-word, 1000-page documents, at least on my old machine.

The bigger problem is motivation. Without some kind of external prompt, I found myself forgetting the journal, or skipping it in favor of something more fun — sometimes for weeks at a time.

 

The Solution

Last year, I switched to an email system. This eliminates the loading times and makes it very easy to finish daily entries. I’ve also begun to ask myself questions, to mitigate the menace of the blank page.

If you’ve ever wanted to journal, or to resume journaling, you can set up this hyper-efficient, automatic system yourself. In ten minutes.

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How to Start a College Magazine, Part Four: Survival and Growth

 

Want help starting a magazine?

I’m always happy to answer questions! Post them in the comment section or contact me directly.

 

This is the last article in a four-part series on starting a college magazine, written by the former Chairman of the Yale Record, America’s oldest humor magazine. There’s a lot of information here; pick and choose whatever seems helpful. 

 

In the first three parts of this series, I gave advice about starting a publication, recruiting writers and other staff, and putting together your first few issues.

This is the cleanup post, where I talk about everything else. It will make more sense if you read the other posts first. Topics covered include:

  • Publicizing your work
  • Funding the publication
  • Selling advertisements
  • Staying out of trouble
  • Preserving your history

 

Find Readers, Get Famous

You’ve published an issue! Congratulations.

Now what?

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Empathy and Heroic Responsibility

(Faithful readers: You can now subscribe to this blog!)

 

My last two posts for Applied Sentience are up:

http://appliedsentience.com/2015/05/29/moral-heroism-pt-1-empathys-faults-heroism-to-the-rescue/

http://appliedsentience.com/2015/07/06/moral-heroism-pt-ii-how-to-become-a-hero-or-at-least-get-started/

Within, I discuss some thoughts I’ve had recently on the problems with empathy, and how we need another layer of moral feeling on top of empathy — for which I borrow the term “heroic responsibility” from Eliezer Yudkowsky — if we want to do good in difficult situations.

The posts total about 2500 words, but this post provides a brief summary.

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My Senior Thesis: How Can Great Charities Raise More Money?

Update: Charity Science, an organization whose work I admire, has added my thesis to their page on charitable giving research. I highly recommend their site for more information on the topics discussed here.

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After months of work, I’ve finally finished my thesis:

Charitable Fundraising and Smart Giving: How can charities use behavioral science to drive donations?

It’s a very long paper, and you probably shouldn’t read the whole thing. I conducted my final round of editing over the course of 38 hours in late April, during which I did not sleep. It’s kind of a slog.

Here’s a PDF of the five pages where I summarize everything I learned and make recommendations to charities:

The Part of the Thesis You Should Actually Read

 

In the rest of this post, I’ve explained my motivation for actually writing this thing, and squeezed my key findings into a pair of summaries: One that’s a hundred words long, one that’s quite a bit longer.

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Teach To The Future

I’ve started a new series of blog posts on Applied Sentience: “Teach To The Future”.

Through these posts, I cover subjects like teaching people (especially kids) to write for an online audience:

http://appliedsentience.com/2015/01/09/teach-to-the-future-part-1-how-to-write-for-the-internet

Or teaching people to see through the eyes of other people, in a rigorous and practical way:

http://appliedsentience.com/2015/03/09/school-of-the-future-pt-2-seeing-through-other-eyes/

I care a lot about education, especially since I’ve just received 17 straight years of the stuff. But I think we spend too much time on some subjects and not enough on… well, the subjects I cover in these posts. I don’t know much about pedagogy, but I try to stick to skills I do know. As always, let me know if you have thoughts on how to develop these ideas further.

Bonus: If you teach children and want help figuring out a curriculum based on any of the subjects or lesson plans I describe, I’m happy to help!